Suzanne,
I hope this letter finds you well. You have always been someone who possessed a
deep passion for improving the world that we know, whether through environmental
factors or human relationships, I am certain your journey has led you toward
this path. As you move forward
throughout your rest of your journey, I would like to provide you a few tips
and considerations to help you develop and continue to grow along your journey.
One of the biggest goals that I know you were eager and
enthusiastic to take on over the years has been to utilize the intentional
change theory. Practicing intentional change is ideal for
someone like yourself who struggles to stay on task. I know, it can be easy to get sidetracked
over time and suddenly the routine you started to develop is gone. Remember that sustained change comes through
intention. Think about what your ideal
self was during the time of this letter, how you closed the gaps between the
vision and your real self at the time, or are there still areas that could be
further developed? Reflecting on the gaps between your ideal future and where
your real self is now is a vital component to intentional and sustainable
change. Your personal vision sought a desire to overcome negative talk and
encourage self-confidence. Intentional
change can help you reach that goal by setting small goals and working to build
your confidence. Hitting this milestone
would be a huge benefit for you because it’s the first wall that has been
holding you back from your idea future! Don’t let it! You are a capable and motivated person who
brings a special gift to the world, just like everyone else. Don’t forget that you are the only person who
can dictate your future. Choose to
overcome these difficulties by starting with ICT and developing an action plan
to take on anything that appears as a negative attractor or element holding you
back. You don’t need that in your life!
Integrating
this into your life will be simple. I’m
sure you can think of many reasons why it wont work, but there are equal and
more important reasons for why it will.
Remember what you said about tipping points and how you discussed that
you have yet to have a negative experience from accepting these tipping
points? Does that still hold true
today? Remember that for every negative,
there is an opportunity for growth and development. Stay positive and focused on the goal. You have an abundance of people waiting on the
side to help you when you need it, don’t forget about them. I know you sometimes get caught up with your
internal motivators, but remember that the relationships you’ve built with
others is equally as important to your success.
Nick is your rock and brings a different and honest opportunity for you
to gain feedback and options. He may
need some pushing, but that’s never stopped you before. Clarissa is there for you to. You may be states away, but she is only a
phone call away when support is needed.
While these two play large roles in your support, don’t forget about
those who you’ve yet to meet. Coworkers
at future jobs may have wonderful opportunities that are going missed
everyday. Try to connect and develop a relationship
with those people.
Suzanne, I know you are working hard toward maintaining
renewal and not allowing your emotions to control your actions. You have been working tirelessly to
strengthen and build on your emotional intelligence and I just want to remind
you that it is a work in progress. Don’t be discouraged by any set backs. Your
strengths and weaknesses vary throughout, but make sure you aren’t avoiding any
categories like relationship management and self-management. Remember to accept other people’s advice or
opinions and please, listen! You have amazing advice to give, so allow yourself
to indulge in the practice of mindfulness and compassion. Pay attention and believe in yourself that
you are capable of helping others.
You can
continue to apply ICT throughout many aspects of your life including your work
and personal life. Start with your small
goals, like finishing those projects that you told others you would take care
of. Once you have completed all of that,
remember that it’s ok to say no to people.
Practice saying no and being ok with not doing everything. Enjoy your free time and reflect or meditate
on the day. Don’t ignore those tipping
points either when they pop up during this practice. I know they can be scary, but look what you’ve
done so far with your life! You’ve managed this far, I think you will gain so
much insight if you continue on. And finally,
build confidence in yourself by repeating your positive motivators. You need this in your life because I know you
are hard on yourself. You are your
harshest critic and expect nothing but the best. Don’t let you assumed failures lingered with
you, let them go; they are in the past and there is nothing you can do to
change what has already happened, only what will happen. Remember, you have power and strength in your
actions and passion and hope in your future, don’t let them go to waste.
Boyatzis, R. E., & McKee, A. (2005).
Resonant Leadership: Renewing yourself and connecting with others through
mindfulness, hope, and compassion. Boston: Harvard Business School Press.
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