Sunday, November 30, 2014

A632.6.3.RB - The High Cost of Conflict

My final year of my undergraduate studies, my department was schedule to study abroad in Lacoste, France. The college I was at worked on a quarter schedule, so my department was scheduled to go in the spring quarter, which was our final quarter of the year.  My best friend was going, as well as my portfolio teacher, who I had been with throughout the whole year.  I was really distraught on whether or not I should go because I had yet to land a job and was in the process of communicating with a few companies who seemed interested.  I struggled with the emotional conflict, as Stewart Levine discusses, with my decision to go and risk losing a potential job, or stay and risk missing out on a once in-a-lifetime opportunity.  After weighing my decisions, I decided to stay and not study abroad.  I still question my decision to do so.  I did end up getting a job during that time, which was great, but I ended up not enjoying it a year later and have sense left. 

Using the “cycle of resolution”, I would have most likely approached the situation differently and analyzed things in a way that would have made it easier for me.  First, I would have thought about what it was that I really want to get out my education, or “developing an attitude of resolution”.  The second step I would have thought about what I want my story to be.  What do I want to accomplish from my experiences?  Asking these questions would have helped me figure out how to tell my story.  I did a little bit of what Levine mentions for telling your story.  I asked many different people what their experiences were when they studied abroad and if they regret their decisions.  In almost all cases, everyone had an incredible journey and would not have changed it.  Listening to their stories now, I feel I have a completely different perspective that I didn’t take into account back then.  Next, step would be to get current and complete.  Levine notes that this step is about articulating what usually goes unexpressed.  This is an area where I tend to struggle, as I don’t express all of my thoughts fully.  If I had faced all of my thoughts at the time, I may have recognized what my real reasons for not wanting or wanting to go were.  Next, seeing vision for the future would have helped to guide me to understand what was more necessary in terms of experience; experience in a new culture and new environment, or on the job experience with a new job. 

Overall, I believe that the cycle of resolution would have helped me face some of the ideas that I ignored during my decision making process.

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